Are You Sure You’re Not Having Twins?

Written by Ashley

As a woman, a positive self-image has never been one of my strong points. I’ve never been fond of anyone talking about my weight. Even a “have you lost weight?” comment makes me squirm as I feel as though people are paying too much attention to my yo-yoing appearance. So when I became pregnant, I was caught completely off guard by the slew of comments that started heading my way.

Maybe it’s my build, maybe it’s how the baby is growing, but I started looking obviously pregnant at about 8 weeks along. By 17 weeks, the “that’s going to be a 10-pounder!” and “you’re only how far along?” became repetitive in conversations. Even strangers felt the need to comment on my size.

At 31 weeks, it hasn’t stopped and I doubt it will until a couple months post-birth. At my doctor’s appointment last week, my doctor even said to me, “Wow! You’re looking big. Are you sure there aren’t twins in there?” I said, “You tell me!”

I just don’t understand how it’s suddenly okay to comment on someone’s weight just because they are pregnant. It’s such a touchy subject for many and when a woman has as many hormones rushing through her body as she does during those 9 months, it’s not a good idea to approach her with those types of comments.

I recently found an article listing the top 10 comebacks to “stupid pregnancy comments” that made me chuckle.

My favorites are:

You look like you’re about to explode! Really? I had no idea. I was feeling quite svelte today. Thanks for the earth shattering observation.

Are you sure you don’t have twins in there? Yes, I’m pretty sure I would be aware if I were carrying two babies. But, thanks for checking.

You can’t possibly have X months left! Wow! You know so much about this! I should just quit going to my OB and come straight to you!

I doubt I would ever use any of these, unless someone flat out said “you’re fat.

About Ashley

Ashley is expecting her first child in early September 2012 with her high-school sweetheart turned husband 3 years ago. Together they have a lab named Peak whom they adopted during a ski trip in Denver. She loves all things fashion and has already filled her baby girl’s closet with enough clothes and accessories to outfit her until she’s 2. She is the Social Media Manager at Step2 and you may have recently communicated with her if you’ve chatted with Step2 on Facebook or Twitter.

  1. Ashley,

    I know just what you mean! One night I was at Chuck E. Cheese with my son and this lady came up to me and said very loudly oh look she is having twins. Me red in the face turned and said nope just one! I am short and baby was 7lbs 11oz.

    Even now that my baby is 5 months I get comments like “Is it hard to lose weight while nursing?” I am thinking wow thanks I must look wonderful.

    I wrote a blog post on my honest thoughts about it awhile back and found comfort that the story was true for others moms as well.

    Hang in there! It’s all worth it for the sweet baby you get! 🙂


    1. Whitney, thanks for sharing your experience as well. Congrats on your little one! I’d love to read your post about this topic as well. – Ashley

  2. Okay but it’s really honest! Also maybe you want to read it after you’ve had your sweet baby??lol Okay enough chit chat read if you dare! 😉


  3. Ashley,
    People say the same things to me. You are a beautiful mom to be and are carrying a miracle inside of you. Enjoy these last weeks of little kicks and just ignore those people that like to share there two cents.

  4. Ashley,

    I just gave birth last month to my 3rd child and she was almost 12lbs believe it or not and you’d be amazed by some of the comments I got…. things is after carrying around 3 babies nothing seems to phase me. You’re going to be amazed how much none of those things matter anymore once you have that beautiful little baby in your arms.. and I think you’ll come to realize that most people mean absolutely no harm by their words when they do things like that. I’ve actually found myself commenting on other women since I’ve had my kids. I don’t know why it happens sometimes lol. Sounds absurd but.. pregnancy and birth are such a miracle and joy I think most people just want to acknowledge it but don’t have the right words 🙂

    good luck to you and btw you look absolutely glowing in your photo!

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